I wonder how long it takes for people to stop saying "Oh, it's a phase, you'll grow out of it and want triplets." and to actually take you seriously. The amount of times I've had similar conversations with my parents, over not having children and marriage, since I was a child, is practically unbelieveable.
Most recently it was bought up again at home, as I am legally getting my name changed (from Heather to Sky), for various reasons. My father turned around to me and said "But what will your children think when you have them?" I stared at him in disbelief for a moment, and he continued "Oh, that's right your not having any." In that tone of voice where you know the person is just playing along because they think you're sounding whiney.
I smiled politely, nodded and said "That's right, I'm hoping to get sterilized in the next year or so." ::snort:: The look on his face was priceless. Perhaps at least he will start taking me seriously, but it's doubtful.
Even more recently (last night), I was urged by a friend of mine to join a rating community (based on your personality) so that she had a friend to discuss all the applicants with. Well, I looked over the application, and wasn't surprised to find in the "What are your views on..." section, a part about abortion.
I'm not sure how extreme my views are within the CF community, so I'll put this bit under a cut, just in case you don't want to read. I also note it was written in the early hours of the morning (four am) so doesn't read all that well, and isn't very thought through, but you get the general idea.
Abortion- First off, I don’t care if your view differs from mine on this, it’s such a controversial subject as it is, that it’d be insanely stupid of me to think that everyone is of the same opinion when they’re blatantly not. However, do not think for one second that I can’t see the opposite side of the argument. I could argue my way into president of the pro-life campaign if I wanted most probably.
That said; I couldn’t give a damn. You want to go kill your unborn child, go ahead and do it. There are far too many people in the world as it is; we don’t need more thanks. These days I’m beginning to think that it would actually be a better idea if there were enforced abortions. There are people out there getting pregnant and becoming parents when they can’t so much as dress themselves properly, let alone care for a child adequately. One of my close friends being a prime example of this. I feel very sorry for the child.
Don’t get me wrong. Abortions can be very gruesome things. Mentally as well as physically. And it should never be considered a good form of birth control, because too many ends up being very damaging to the female body, as I’m sure you already know. I’ve had to look after a friend who underwent one, and heard stories of girlfriends who have gone on to regret it for the rest of their lives. Personally, it wouldn’t faze me. But then I am strongly against having my own children.
It has also been mentioned (By someone else on the community this is part of, heh, how I love people like this), I notice, that the fetus has feelings, and that is one of the reasons it shouldn’t be done. It may have feelings, and send electrical pulse through the cluster of cells, but they are feelings in no way similar to our own. It has also been proven in tests that plants know if you thinking negatively about them, or if you are, say, about to stab them with a kitchen knife. They also send electrical impulses throughout the various systems. This however, is not going to stop me eating potatoes. Much like the knowledge that animals can feel, will not stop me eating bacon.
Perhaps I will refine this at a later date, because, well, it's not one of the best arguements that will allow people to see that side of the coin.
Anyway, the whole point of this post is, if you got this far, what are your thoughts on abortion, and parents who seem to think they get every right in the world, just because they happen to share the same genes as some little sprog running around and screaming. Also, what are your thoughts on us, the childfree who are so young, anyone who's actually managed to claim a little respect for this decision?