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Thursday, April 24th, 2008

Subject:I do NOT want kids . com !! (100% Free CHILDFREE Dating site)
Posted by:idonotwantkids.
Time:4:48 pm.

*I do NOT want kids . com !!  (100% Free CHILDFREE Dating site)
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The world's only 100% free CHILDFREE dating site for the select few that do NOT have or want kids:

www.IdoNOTwantKids.com

Child free dating.  Instant full membership.  No games. 

( Just my way of trying to find, and helping others like me, find  someone on this planet that does NOT have or want kids. )

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Wednesday, September 13th, 2006

Posted by:h0rsegurrrl.
Time:12:44 pm.
Wow.  I'm glad to finally be in a place where people understand me.  I'm an anorexia survivor, and my mother and my grandmother both have eating disorders.  There is little evidence that eating disorders are genetic, but in the case of my family, it seems to be proven true.  I refuse to pass on this destructive gene, and among many other reasons, it is my main reason for not wanting children.

I'm a member of a community for people recovering from eating disorders, and I posted a question if other people in the community had thought about not having children because of their eating disorder.  The majority of the people who responded were like, "Nooo, you gotta have kiiids, blahblahlala!!!"  And all I could think was, "Are you seriously going to pass a terrible gene onto some poor unsuspecting innocent person?"  It just really makes me think that people who choose to do so are selfish and cannot be thought of otherwise.

The eating disorder is certainly not my only reason for not having children.  Other reasons include:

1)  I hate children.  I hate when people say, "Oh, it's different once it's your own family."  No it's not.  The fact that it's my own family doesn't change the fact that it's still a blob with a weird-shaped head that drools and craps its pants.  I don't even like my neice or nephew, but don't tell my family, they might disown me or something.

2)  The planet doesn't need more people on it.  The evidence is all around us - disease, famine, AIDS, threat of a nuclear war, threat of another flu epidemic, threat of another ice age, etc. - and people are still making more people.  Listen, breeder:  You may not be around when that stuff happens, but your children or grandchildren or great-grandchildren will.  Do you really want to put your own family in danger like that?

3)  There are hundreds of thousands of children out there who need loving homes.  Why would you choose to make more children when there's plenty out there who need you?  The way I see it, people who make their own children are selfish.  Why would you choose to make your own children before you would adopt?  Because you want them to look like you and act like you, right?  I would say that's pretty selfish.  I choose not to be selfish;  if I decide someday that I want a child, then there's already one out there who needs me, I don't need to create my own.

4)  It's a proven fact that the number one reason for divorce is disagreements over children.  Marriages that are child-centered lack passion.  A full 40% of people who have children live to regret it  (look it up if you don't believe me)  and knowing me, I would inevitably become one of those people who regrets it.  When I marry a man, I will want him to know that I love him for him, not his sperm.  And I'll want to know that he loves me as his wife, not as an incubator.

I did have one question:  I was interested in getting my tubes tied someday (although probably not soon; I don't think any self-respecting doctor would perform a tubal ligation on an otherwise-healthy 18 year old)  and I was wondering how exactly do they perform the surgery?  Do they cut into your stomach or do they go in through your woman-parts?  Just wanted to know about that.
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Tuesday, May 16th, 2006

Posted by:ladyvoldything.
Time:7:06 pm.
Hello, all! I'm 16 years old, and I've decided to NEVER have my own, biological children. I'm still somewhat on the fence as to whether or not I'll ever adopt, but whatever. The point is, I've vowed never to add my own crotchdroppings to the world and increase the surplus population.

Everyone thinks I'm such a freak (omg!) for never wanting kids. I want to get my tubes tied when I turn 25. They all tell me not to do it- that I'm going to change my mind! Because, you know, nobody under the age of 18 could POSSIBLY know what they want in this world, despite all their moral and personal convictions. My mom told me that someday, I WILL want a baby- that the "biological clock" will give me an "urge to have your very own baby." No, I told her, there is no "have uterus, will labor" instinct, there's a "have hormones, will rut" instinct. Instincts do not have 9-month forsight, they are gutteral urges that drive basic actions- that then connect to things like children. The urge to have children, I told her, is an entirely learned behaviour that society and personal desires breed. If I REALLY want a baby, I told her, I'd adopt.

Her response? "You can't possibly know what you're talking about until you've been there."

What? So I can't know whether or not I want kids- until I've had kids? Great logic. I can't know bare, scientific facts about the nature of animal instinct- because I haven't crapped out a paint can yet?

Great bleeding logic, there, Mommy Dearest.

I don't want kids- pregnancy is scary, painful, dangerous, and permanently scarring. I have asthma. It could be damaging to my health AND my checkbook- asthmatics spend significantly more money every year than healthy people do, and adding the expenses of childrearing? The salary of any of the many jobs I aspire towards would put me living in poverty. It's scarring- my skin has a genetic tendency to form lots of stretch marks for no reason, and I LIKE being able to wear bikinis, thanks but no thanks. My weight would never be the same, and everything would generally suck. It would zonk my career, and having kids would cost me money and life that I could be living for myself- for my dreams. I have so much more ability to get out there and DO shit and help more people if I don't have baggage all the time. I would so rather have pets than kids. Animals make more sense than people do.

Why can't people just respect that decision?



Peace, Love, and Chocolate Monkeys,
~*Amy*~
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Sunday, September 25th, 2005

Subject:Asking for assistance
Posted by:ethniu.
Time:5:47 pm.
I'm posting here because I have nowhere else to turn. I'm currently 5-6 weeks pregnant and am looking to have an abortion. After contacting all the abortion centers within a 250 mile radius, the lowest price I could find was 658$. I"m currently a graduate student at a university and barely make enough to cover my rent. Thus finances being what they are, I contacted nnaf.org and every fund they had listed for my state. So far I've either been denied assistance due to low funds, or I've not received an answer from my various attempts to contact them. The midwives I've contacted in the area are all unwilling to help terminate a pregnancy at home and my own attempts using vitamin C and Dong Quai have been unsuccesful in initiating a miscarriage. In order to raise money, I"m trying to sell the only items of value that I own ( my violin and digital camera), but even if I sell them both, it'll still be 250$ or less. I"m 22 so parental permission is not a problem, but asking them for assistance is out of the question. My father is a baptist minister, and my mother is of the same mind. I've requested help from all of my friends with whom this subject is safe to discuss and one friend has told me that he probably can lend me a hundred dollars in a week or so. Thus having thoroughly examined my options, my funding resources and my timeframe, I"m going to appeal to people who support abortion as an option to help me through this. And no, I don't enjoy asking strangers for help, but at this point, I"m willing to try. I"m sure I"m probably going to get some flak for asking for help at all, but please, I'm just trying. If you don't want to help, that's fine. Just please try not to attack me, I don't think I could handle much of that right now. If you want to confirm my identity and my situation I"ll be happy to return emails or calls (email and I"ll send you my phone number). If you want to donate, I've set up a paypal account using the email ethniu82 @ hotmail.com. Any donation would be appreciated, even just a few dollars. Once I've reached the amount I need, I"ll freeze the account and return all other donations. I'll also attempt to pay back what's been given over time, but it might take a while to cover everything. Please help. This will be cross posted in as many communities as I think would be open to the idea.
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Subject:Asking for assistance
Posted by:ethniu.
Time:5:19 pm.
I'm posting here because I have nowhere else to turn. I'm currently 5-6 weeks pregnant and am looking to have an abortion. After contacting all the abortion centers within a 250 mile radius, the lowest price I could find was 658$. I"m currently a graduate student at a university and barely make enough to cover my rent. Thus finances being what they are, I contacted nnaf.org and every fund they had listed for my state. So far I've either been denied assistance due to low funds, or I've not received an answer from my various attempts to contact them. The midwives I've contacted in the area are all unwilling to help terminate a pregnancy at home and my own attempts using vitamin C and Dong Quai have been unsuccesful in initiating a miscarriage. In order to raise money, I"m trying to sell the only items of value that I own ( my violin and digital camera), but even if I sell them both, it'll still be 250$ or less. I"m 22 so parental permission is not a problem, but asking them for assistance is out of the question. My father is a baptist minister, and my mother is of the same mind. I've requested help from all of my friends with whom this subject is safe to discuss and one friend has told me that he probably can lend me a hundred dollars in a week or so. Thus having thoroughly examined my options, my funding resources and my timeframe, I"m going to appeal to people who support abortion as an option to help me through this. And no, I don't enjoy asking strangers for help, but at this point, I"m willing to try. I"m sure I"m probably going to get some flak for asking for help at all, but please, I'm just trying. If you don't want to help, that's fine. Just please try not to attack me, I don't think I could handle much of that right now. If you want to confirm my identity and my situation I"ll be happy to return emails or calls (email and I"ll send you my phone number). If you want to donate, I've set up a paypal account using the email ethniu82 @ hotmail.com. Any donation would be appreciated, even just a few dollars. Once I've reached the amount I need, I"ll freeze the account and return all other donations. I'll also attempt to pay back what's been given over time, but it might take a while to cover everything. Please help. This will be cross posted in as many communities as I think would be open to the idea.
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Sunday, February 8th, 2004

Subject:Hmm, some random thoughts
Posted by:somethingclever.
Time:3:46 am.
Mood: contemplative.
While reading some articles posted in childfree both from the Guardian, this one being to do with the special acceptance parents get, and this one, to do with abortion, for those who do not also get the other community on their friends list, I began thinking.

I wonder how long it takes for people to stop saying "Oh, it's a phase, you'll grow out of it and want triplets." and to actually take you seriously. The amount of times I've had similar conversations with my parents, over not having children and marriage, since I was a child, is practically unbelieveable.

Most recently it was bought up again at home, as I am legally getting my name changed (from Heather to Sky), for various reasons. My father turned around to me and said "But what will your children think when you have them?" I stared at him in disbelief for a moment, and he continued "Oh, that's right your not having any." In that tone of voice where you know the person is just playing along because they think you're sounding whiney.

I smiled politely, nodded and said "That's right, I'm hoping to get sterilized in the next year or so." ::snort:: The look on his face was priceless. Perhaps at least he will start taking me seriously, but it's doubtful.

Even more recently (last night), I was urged by a friend of mine to join a rating community (based on your personality) so that she had a friend to discuss all the applicants with. Well, I looked over the application, and wasn't surprised to find in the "What are your views on..." section, a part about abortion.

I'm not sure how extreme my views are within the CF community, so I'll put this bit under a cut, just in case you don't want to read. I also note it was written in the early hours of the morning (four am) so doesn't read all that well, and isn't very thought through, but you get the general idea.

And my exact words were...Collapse )

Perhaps I will refine this at a later date, because, well, it's not one of the best arguements that will allow people to see that side of the coin.

Anyway, the whole point of this post is, if you got this far, what are your thoughts on abortion, and parents who seem to think they get every right in the world, just because they happen to share the same genes as some little sprog running around and screaming. Also, what are your thoughts on us, the childfree who are so young, anyone who's actually managed to claim a little respect for this decision?
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Wednesday, February 4th, 2004

Posted by:equiraptor.
Time:12:26 pm.
If anyone is interested in an IRC channel for childfree people, we've started one. It's on irc.distributed.net in the channel #childfree. Anyone and everyone is welcome, and if you'd like help finding a good IRC client or getting connected, ask. :)
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Monday, November 17th, 2003

Subject:Introduction...
Posted by:equiraptor.
Time:11:40 pm.
Mood: blah.
I'm Monica, but you're more likely to find me online as equiraptor. I'm 21. I had figured out I didn't really think children were for me by the 4th grade. We had those sex-ed classes... One of the questions they asked was "How many kids do you want to have?" As they went around asking everyone, I thought, "I don't want any, I really don't, but if I say that, they'll think something's wrong with me." I said I just wanted one. I got some... interesting looks.

Now I'm getting "You'll change your mind" and those she must be evil looks at work. *sigh* Fortunately, my S.O. is childfree as well. I think my mother can handle "I don't want kids any time soon, and it doesn't look like I ever will" because I'm leaving myself open to change. My dad is very hands-off. It's my life, I'll do what I want (yay Dad!).

So... um... that's me. :)
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Sunday, November 9th, 2003

Subject:First introduction
Posted by:somethingclever.
Time:7:15 pm.
Well, I guess I'm the first one to post here. So here goes an introduction, even though I know I'm currently the only other member.

I'm Sky, twenty years old, and I don't wish to have children. I've felt like this since a very young age, and no matter who tells me that one day my feelings will change, I don't want my own children.

A couple of years ago I considered asking to have my tubes clipped, but, seeing as it is such a drastic measure, at least, the doctors would see it that way for someone so young, it was doubtful they would even consider it. I will probably try again in a few years, but for the moment, I'm fine as it is.

One of the main reasons I don't want children is because I wouldn't feel right contributing to the overpopulation problem we have at the moment, that, and wouldn't like to bring life into a world we are slowly destroying.

Anything else you want to know, message me. XD
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